03

May

Figuring Out Where to Stand for Parents This time of year, can be challenging for both parents and teenagers. There are students who are putting in a heroic effort toward improving their grades as the school year comes to an end. For another group of students, it can prove to be a make it or…

20

Oct

There are behaviors and characteristics from loved ones that we usually except as part of their personality.  It does not mean that we may particularly enjoy that trait or behavior, but feel it is something we decide we can live with. A wife may except her husband’s socks may never quite make it into the…

26

Feb

The dynamics for adolescents participating in counseling services is different than adults. Counselors need to be mindful of specific developmental issues that could factor into therapy. Motivation, insight, maturity, and life experiences are just not the same for adolescents as they are for adults. It is important for parents to have realistic expectations of what…

15

Apr

Inevitably, If a child is caught smoking marijuana, and are confronted by their parents about their use, they will defend their action. The age old response “but everyone at school smokes” most likely will be accessed. This may perceptually seem accurate to them, but statistically it is not. Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration…

19

Mar

As parents of teens, understanding their choices becomes a work in progress. Shaping the behaviors we want them to demonstrate by utilizingincentives and consequences takes time and patience. The answer parents are searching for…”What were you thinking?” may not be something theadolescent could answer him or herself. When addressing decision making with adolescents, we need…

19

Mar

Slowly but surely, researchers are beginning to uncover the causes of narcissistic children and how to help them. Whether or not narcissism starts from genetics or environment, abusive or overvalued, it is still considered a type of sociopathy  when you get down to the core. Like any person who happens to show traits of narcissism,…

12

Jan

How many parents have heard their child shout out in frustration over some task they are attempting to complete ie. homework, a game, play with another child, etc.? Finding a plan for helping them through their challenges without continually solving problems for your child takes a fair bit of patience and finesse. Why should children solve…

05

Jan

Listening from another room, Mom hears her son ask his dad Can I play GameCube? Dad responds Sure! Now your mom said it was ok, right? The boy stammers. Dad continues …because it would be wrong to come to me for a different answer when your mom has already given you one. You did ask your…

22

Dec

Rewards and challenges of parenting exist at every stage of life. When it comes to having an adolescent there are particular obstacles parents may need to navigate. Teenagers are introduced to the thoughts of emerging adulthood, peer relationships, opposite sex, and the desire for independence. Parents are faced with the prospect of having less control over…

08

Dec

Kids will be kids. Its only a joke, they were only playing around. Its a right of passage. I went through it as a kid and I’m fine now. These are statements that one hears from many people. There is a belief system that if a child survives the tough kids that somehow they will be a…